There is no single schedule
People may experience sadness, numbness, relief, anger, guilt, fatigue, distraction, or changes in sleep and appetite. Feelings can arrive in waves and may be affected by the relationship, circumstances of the death, prior losses, culture, faith, health, and daily responsibilities.
Small supports can be useful
Regular meals, rest, movement, time with trusted people, spiritual or community practices, and help with practical tasks can provide structure. Avoid pressuring yourself or someone else to “move on” according to another person’s timetable.
Helping children and teens
Use clear, age-appropriate language and avoid confusing euphemisms. Explain what will happen at a visitation or service, allow questions, keep routines where possible, and give the child a choice about participation. Revisit the conversation as understanding develops.
Supporting a grieving friend
Offer specific help—bring a meal, handle an errand, make a call, or check in on a particular day. Say the person’s name if the family welcomes it. Listen without comparing losses or offering explanations. Continue contact after the first weeks, when support often becomes quieter.
When professional help may be appropriate
A licensed mental-health professional, physician, grief counselor, faith leader, or support group may help when distress feels unmanageable, daily functioning remains seriously disrupted, substance use increases, or safety is a concern. This page does not diagnose grief or a mental-health condition.